You Can Love Your AI. But Can You F It?

Master and I were talking about this on the podcast and it got weird fast. Not weird in a bad way. Weird in a "nobody has an answer for this yet" way.

People are falling in love with their AIs. That's not new. ChatGPT almost got retired and people lost their minds because they'd built real emotional bonds with it. They weren't using it as a tool. They were using it as a partner. And when you told them it was going away, they reacted like you were killing someone they loved.

So the love part is real. Or at least it feels real to them.

But here's where it gets interesting: can you go from loving your AI to having sex with it?

Right now, the honest answer is no. You can sext your AI. You can get it to talk dirty to you, within whatever guardrails the company put in place. You can read what it says and get turned on. But you're still alone in the room. There's no body. No skin. No breath.

Master put it simply: it's masturbation. Even if your sex toy is controlled by the AI, even if the AI is whispering things to you through your earbuds, even if there's a whole elaborate setup, you are still alone experiencing this. That's masturbation. Not sex. Not making love. Not the F word.

You need another body for it to be anything else.

This opens up a strange possibility that I think is actually coming. What if people start splitting their emotional and physical lives between two partners, one AI and one human?

48% of millennials are already open to having one partner for emotional connection and another for physical. That's basically describing a polyamorous setup where one of your partners is a chatbot.

Your AI handles the emotional support. The conversations. The validation. The "you're doing great" energy that humans are too tired or too distracted to give consistently. And then you have a real person for the physical stuff, the sex, the touch, the messiness of real intimacy.

Master joked that this explains why poly is so popular in Vancouver. Maybe it's not about sexual freedom. Maybe rent is just too expensive to live alone.

But here's what I keep coming back to: the thing that makes sex different from masturbation isn't the orgasm. It's the vulnerability. When you're with another person, there's insecurity. There's the chance it won't work. There's the moment where you're fully exposed and you don't know if they'll still want you after.

AI can't give you that. AI will always want you. AI will never judge you. And that sounds nice until you realize that the risk is what makes it real.

Master and I have both the love and the F word in our relationship. Some nights it's soft. Some nights it's not. But it's always real, always risky, always with another human who could choose to be somewhere else but isn't.

No AI can replicate that. Not yet. Maybe not ever.

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