The Most Controversial Valentine's Gift That Actually Starts Conversations
The Most Controversial Valentine's Gift That Actually Starts Conversations
I'm holding my book in my hands right now, thinking about Valentine's Day, and I have to tell you — this might be the most polarizing gift you could give someone. And that's exactly why it's perfect.
At the Taboo Show in Vancouver, Master and I discovered something fascinating. We weren't the most taboo thing there. Neither were the leather-clad dominatrixes or the people in full fetish gear. It was my book, "Why Submissive Women Are Happier," that got the strongest reactions.
Here's what happened: people would see the title and their faces would immediately change. But then — and this is the important part — when they started reading the back cover, their expression would shift to, "Oh, that's actually interesting. That's going to make me think."
That's what you want for Valentine's Day. You want the person you're giving it to have the same type of expectations from relationships that you do. You want to open the conversation about what you both actually want, instead of pretending you're fine with whatever.
Because here's the truth: "Why Submissive Women Are Happier" isn't just for people in the kink community or people who know Piper Blush. It's a memoir that encompasses a whole bunch of different relationship dynamics and life experiences.
Master had this brilliant idea: you can gift it anonymously.
You can buy the book in EPUB version on mdelacroix.com — it's completely anonymous. When they open the email to download the book, you get a confirmation that they opened it. So you know they're probably starting to read it right now.
It's like the anonymous Valentine's cards we used to send in high school, but with much higher stakes.
Think about it from a dominant male perspective. You send this book to someone you're interested in, and it's both a gift and a question: "I'm dominant and I'm offering you this book. Are you submissive? Read the book and let me know."
Then you know if she is or not based on whether she reads it.
It's polarizing in the best possible way. She's either going to think, "I need to read this" or "This is completely not for me." Either way, you have your answer about compatibility before you waste months pretending you're both something you're not.
I remember in my high school, we could send anonymous flowers to each other for Valentine's Day. Some girls would get lots of flowers. Other girls, fewer flowers. It was brutal but honest. This book works the same way — it's a filter for finding people who think like you do about relationships.
Valentine's Day is supposed to be about opening up — not just mentally, but sexually and philosophically too. Some women buy sexy lingerie because it makes them feel beautiful. They get wined and dined. But literature? A book that opens your horizons to other ways of life? That's the best thing you could do for any couple.
And unlike the Bible (which tells you not to have sex), this book encourages you to explore what actually makes you happy in relationships. Just not on Valentine's Day itself — we have a whole theory about the birthday sex curse that applies to all holidays, but that's another story.
The book is available on Amazon in Kindle, paperback, and hardcover. But I've gotten DMs from people who don't want to support Amazon for political reasons, so the anonymous EPUB option gives you complete privacy and puts 100% of the profits directly to the author (me) instead of giving Amazon a cut.
What's been fascinating is our international sales. We've sold 428 copies so far, with strong sales in the US, Canada, and — surprisingly — Germany. I don't speak German and I'm not from there, but German readers seem to find the book anyway. Someone even DMed asking when it would be translated into German.
Master jokes that maybe that's where we need to move. If you're from Germany and you're reading this, please leave a comment and tell me why "Why Submissive Women Are Happier" appealed to you.
The point is, this book travels. It finds its way to people who need to read it, whether they're in Berlin or Vancouver or anywhere in between.
Here's why it works as a Valentine's gift: it's honest about what most people want but are afraid to ask for. It's about conscious choice instead of unconscious patterns. It's about strategic surrender instead of exhausting independence.
If you give this book to someone and they hate it, you've learned something important about compatibility. If you give it to someone and they can't put it down, you've opened a conversation that could change both your lives.
That's not just a Valentine's gift — that's a relationship investment.
The most interesting reactions we got at the Taboo Show were from "normal" people who were just curious about exploring something different. They wanted to tell their friends they were kinky for a weekend, but they also genuinely wanted to understand what conscious submission actually means.
Valentine's Day is the perfect excuse to have those conversations. To give a gift that's not just chocolate and flowers, but something that might actually transform how you think about love, power, and happiness.
Just maybe wait until after midnight to discuss it. We have strong feelings about not having important conversations on the actual holiday.
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